Forgiveness is the ultimate mercy we are shown by God. His grace is undeserved and an act of pure mercy. It is ineffable, completely incomprehensible why he would come to us; the only answer we are given is love. We have to remind ourselves of the significance of this every day. It’s easy to forget about it because it’s so incomprehensible. The magnitude is hard to grasp. Still, a part of our daily meditation is to tap into the immense gravity of the meaning of forgiveness.

We all go through hardships of different degrees and taken with different temperaments. It’s easy to forgive ourselves for acting out from hardships, but we can’t seem to access that sort of empathy for others. We assume the worst by assuming everybody has easy circumstances and that we are the only ones suffering. It’s through empathy we can forgive.

In our own forgiveness, we must forgive others and ourselves. Forgiving others may come easy to some, but it is a monumental challenge to those who have been dealt lasting harm from others. It’s an act of obedience to forgive others. We have to look to God to understand others and to show the same overflowing love to others. In forgiving ourselves, we must not be flippant and let ourselves off the hook too easily. Repentance cannot be taken for granted. We may sin the same sin again, but we should know that it becomes increasingly painful and we cannot make forgiveness a transactional blank cheque.

A part of being generous and giving is being forgiving and bending for people. Obviously, there are boundaries and lines drawn by principle that we should not cross. But there is room for discretion, especially when it’s for the benefit of others instead of ourselves. We can often fool ourselves into thinking that we’re being selfless when it’s actually for our own pride. The example by C.S. Lewis is an overbearing woman who insists on having a tiny piece of toast and perfect temperature tea in an attempt to show modesty or the like; in actuality, it’s their own need for control and wanting things just their way that’s at play.

God shows leniency towards us. He could punish us or turn his back on us, but he always shows love and care. We have to use that example. Underlying lenience should be trust in God. There’s a time for everything. One way to understand Genesis and the forbidden fruit is to trust God in our growth. We can’t attempt to have things our way or control the timing of things; in this sense, we should not prematurely taste the fruits. We have to be patient and trusting of God and know that one day we’ll grow enough for God to serve us the fruits when it is allowed. The permission for our own good. It’s not an arbitrary rule; rather, it is like restricting the big boy’s bicycle until the child masters the training wheels. 

We have love as our breastplate and hope of salvation as a helmet. Through this, we can be lenient towards others and understand the relative insignificance of our tribulations. We can forgive others and glean over slights. Lenience can be understood as essentially interpersonal, but we should also be lenient towards ourselves insofar as not worrying about our own abilities and instead leaning on God.